End of any relationship is painful as it comes with heartbreak, anger, anxiety and sadness. This comes with a lot of anger and emotional disorder, in most of the cases people end up destroying themselves.
Most of the people which assume to be moving on are actually the ones who never forgot their first love. They still remember all the good bad memories of their failed relationship, the feeling of helplessness and mostly, profound grief.
According to a study published in The Journal of Positive Psychology, it takes 11 weeks to feel better after a relationship ends. But a separate study found it takes closer to 18 months to heal from the end of a marriage.
Take time to grieve your loss
From being with someone every day of your life to being a completely strange person can be a very painful experience. So, it’s important for you to come to terms with this new reality, no matter how painful it may seem. While it may be tempting to pretend like nothing happened, it will only prolong the process of getting over the breakup. Acknowledge the pain and then attempt to move on.
Reconnect with yourself
This is the best time to bring the focus back to your life. Relationships can be time-consuming and many times the focus is on “We” and “Me”. Take this me time to find what it is that makes you happy. Find a new talent, reconnect with friends and family, and focus on your physical and mental health. The end of an old relationship can be the beginning of a new one which is with yourself.
Don’t be afraid to ask for help
Many times, the end of a relationship is not a mutual decision. It may come as a shock. Thus feelings of rejection and pain may be apparent. Just because your partner has ended the relationship doesn’t mean that you are unlovable.
Rather than focusing on what you did wrong, look for what you can do to make yourself feel better. Talk to your friends, family about your feelings. Talking through emotions and sharing about your breakup may also give you a chance to look at this event from a different perspective.
Time heals all
You may not realize this at the moment of a breakup, but time can heal the worst of the heartbreaks. Thinking about this break up may not be so painful. Then, you will only think of the happy memories with your partner. Isn’t that the best way to cherish something that was once beautiful? Do let us know in the comments section below.