It has been 3 years and counting and your relationship seem to be moving nowhere? You sometimes get depressed especially when your friends get engaged. That unique feature about you which your partner needs to see is usually masked by selfishness.
Aren't we all selfish? The answer is yes especially when there is that one thing you truly desire. It is not a bad thing to desire something but the moment selfish desires become a behavior, then you need to watch out.
Apparently, many people do not know that they are selfish. It is never easy to know if you are selfish so, here are some 5 signs that will help you discover whether you are a selfish lover or not.
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From time to time, we experience mood swings. A person can have a bad or a stressful day which affects his/her behavior. However, if you do not put into consideration your partner's mood then, you are selfish. Despite the mood swing of your partner, understanding their actions and being there for them makes you selfless.
Putting yourself in second place
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Do you always want to be the top priority? At any time you realize that you revolving issues around yourself then you are being selfish. Avoid the 'me' factor and do your best to put your partner first even when it is inconvenient.
Using the statement 'Do you remember'
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Sacrifices are necessary for any relationship to flourish. The moment you find yourself reminding your partner of what you did, then you are being selfish. Remember whatever you did, you did it for love. Being selfless is letting go of whatever you did.
Having the Final Say in an Argument
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When you do not know the time to let go of a fight then, you are selfish. Sincere lovers know when to keep quiet and say sorry. Most importantly, they know the importance of accepting apologies the moment it is made. Selfless lovers always find a way to reconcile.Avoid dragging an issue for a long time.
Pick up Interest for your Partners sake
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Selfish people always find it difficult to do stuff they are not interested in even when it makes their partner happy. Do you turn off the TV when a cricket match is going on because you want attention? Being selfless is trying to learn how to paint nails and trying to know the latest cricket scores. It builds up quality discussions.
With these signs, you now know your status. Are you selfish or selfless? Answer yourself sincerely and have the most flourishing relationship.